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Sunday, May 16, 2010

On the Importance of Handshakes

I am a firm believer that your handshake indicates, to some extent, your character.  It is certainly not the only indicator I use upon a first impression, but it holds a great amount of weight for me.

Let me say quickly that I am not talking about a bone-crushing pissing contest.    That is juvenile and while occasionally amusing, indicates only immaturity and insecurity.

No.  I am speaking about greeting someone in a manner that indicates interest or pleasure at the meeting.  I expect to be looked in the eye and to have my hand shaken in a firm but gentle grip with a "nice to meet you". Or something along those lines.

People who greet me in this manner are those who give me a first impression of likability, believability and character.  

In stark contrast are those who do not.  They look down, offer up a limp, hanging hand and mumble.  While I do not believe that makes them a bad person per se, it gives me a visceral impression of pure negativity.  There is an "ick" factor that just hits me in the gut.  

It colors anything I may already have known or even liked about the person.  I can't help it. 

While I have read no studies on this sort of thing, it has been my experience, to have been correct about the character (or lack thereof) of people who have greeted me in such a manner.
Just the other day, I was proved right again, though I took no pleasure in it. 

So, take a note folks, if it matters to you.  Teach your children to be genuine in their interactions with others so that when they grow up and have a job interview, or meet their girlfriend's parents, their handshake doesn't have the "ick" factor.  

I think no one put it more beautifully than Helen Keller.

The hands of those I meet are dumbly eloquent to me. The touch of some hands is an impertinence. I have met people so empty of joy, that when I clasped their frosty finger-tips, it seemed as if I were shaking hands with a northeast storm. Others there are whose hands have sunbeams in them, so that their grasp warms my heart.
Helen Keller




2 comments:

Allyson & Jere May 19, 2010 at 1:20 PM  

Thanks so much for taking the time to stop by from SITS AND to comment. I appreciate it so much!

I totally agree on a good handshake, it really does say so much about a person.

I'm a full-time mummy May 20, 2010 at 2:25 AM  

Hi Lizzie!

Greetings from Malaysia again! Just want to say thank you for dropping by my blog on my SITS day. You can read the aftermath of my whole day SITting episode at this link:
http://imafulltimemummy.blogspot.com/2010/05/afternath-of-whole-day-sitting.html

Thank you again and hope to see you back here sometime! :D

Warmest Regards,
Jenny aka I'm a full-time mummy
(http://imafulltimemummy.blogspot.com/)

Btw, totally agree with you. Handshakes tells us a lot of the person's character!

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